Do You Wonder Why You Can’t Make A Relationship Work?
Are you experiencing tension in your primary relationship or with a coworker, family member or someone close to you? Are you often worried that your thoughts and feelings will be criticized, invalidated or unsupported by this person? Do you feel detached or alone? Perhaps you worry about what life will be like if the relationship fails. Or maybe life stressors such as work or family consume the time your relationship needs to work well. Perhaps happy memories of your once thriving partnership are now met with chronic lapses in communication. Do you have the same kind of fight over and over again without ever reaching a stable or effective resolution? Do you wish you could connect, feel like yourself and enjoy a harmonious relationship?
Feeling alone or conflicted with someone close to you can lead to feelings of insecurity and pain. Falling out of harmony and into a routine of chronic criticism or minimal interactions can create stress and impact many aspects of your life. Unresolved issues typically become more complicated and vast over time and can compound feelings of anxiety, sadness and yearning. You may question if you want to continue the relationship yet worry about how your life will change if the relationship is terminated. Or, you may desperately want the relationship to thrive and need help working through issues. If you continually feel constricted or limited in your relationship, counseling can help you understand each other in new, impactful ways.
Every Relationship Experiences Discord
People encounter relationship issues every day. If the distance in your partnership or family dynamic causes to you wonder if it’s possible to make your relationship(s) work, you are not alone. As humans we need relationships to in order to survive. When we’re in conflict or experience abandonment, it often causes heavy yearning and sadness. Every relationship presents challenges and the opportunity to grow and learn. In some relationships we experience joy and care, while others challenge our boundaries, our voice and our ability to listen and control emotions. The healthiest relationships are those in which you’re able to be yourself. If you’re feeling disconnected or not heard in your relationship, your issues may have become too difficult to handle alone. The good news is that objective guidance and support from an empathic and experienced therapist can help you form new, healthier perspectives about yourself and the relationship. If you and your partner feel like something fundamental is missing or has gone awry, relationship counseling can help you better understand each other and begin communicating in more effective ways. With support, neutral feedback and a safe space for communication and growth, you can resolve your relationship difficulties and move forward.
Relationship Counseling Can Help You Determine What’s Right For You
While relationships can be difficult to navigate at times, there is hope for resolution and harmony. Whether you are struggling in a relationship with a partner, family member, friend or co-worker, therapy can help you understand the underlying nature of blame, frustration and resentment. Throughout the therapy process, you can also learn ways to communicate more effectively so that you can better understand and receive what you need from the relationship.
In relationship counseling sessions, I will work with both of you to get at the underlying cause of your pain and frustration. Counseling offers a safe space for you to really hear and understand where your partner, family member or coworker is coming from, which can help you both develop and express empathy for one another. You can also learn how to communicate your own authentic needs and desires. The goal of relationship counseling is for each party to learn how to establish healthy boundaries, experience a sense of comfort with each other and contribute positively to the relationship. My work is experiential, meaning we explore what’s on each other’s minds in the moment. This approach gives insight into how each of you experience the relationship and allows us to develop creative ways to move forward. Once your true emotions are brought out into the open, you will begin to feel more understood and confident with your partner and yourself. My work is collaborative and specialized to address your specific issues. Therapy can be a true turning point. You can feel empowered to make a change, and it may present new possibilities and opportunities for each of you to form a trusting and lasting bond.
I’ve worked with clients from all walks of life, including students, veterans, members of the LGBTQ community, families and married couples with relational difficulties for the past five years. I’ve grown to love this work because it empowers people to explore their true selves. If you’re in a difficult relationship dynamic, know that things can always change for the better. If you’re willing to acknowledge that the relationship needs work and engage in the therapy process, you can heal, grow and thrive. Counseling can help you determine what you really want and need from the relationship, provide clarity and inform your actions moving forward.
Although you may see the benefit of relationship counseling, you may still have questions or concerns…
Our relationship feels doomed. I doubt counseling can help.
Seeking help indicates that a part of you really wants to make this relationship work. Relationship counseling is your opportunity to try something different, and down the road you can decide whether or not you want to continue this work.
Therapy is too expensive.
Although cost is a factor, counseling is an investment in your wellbeing and peace of mind. When we get sick or hungry, we don’t question spending money on doctors, medication or food. And, none of that really matters if you’re miserable. The sooner you address your relationship issues, the sooner those issues can be managed, resolved and prevented in the future.
What if my partner doesn’t want to come to counseling?
The first step is asking them to join you. Let your partner know how important working on your relationship is to you. If they still refuse, you may try creating incentives for them to come. Eventually, most unwilling clients agree to do this work because they experience its positive effects. During our initial session, we can create a plan that accommodates each of your goals and needs.
You Can Improve Communication and Create Stronger Bonds in Your Relationships
For more information about relationship counseling or my practice, please contact me to set up your first appointment to start the healing process.